You love your kids. That's not the question. The question is why certain moments undo you in ways you can't quite explain. Why your child's tantrum triggers something in you that feels bigger than a tantrum. Why you lose your patience in ways that surprise even you, and then carry the guilt of it long after the moment has passed.

Maybe you swore you'd do things differently than how you were raised. And you are doing things differently, mostly. But in the hardest moments, under enough pressure, you hear your parents' voice coming out of your mouth and it stops you cold.

Maybe you're navigating a major transition. Divorce, a new baby, blended family dynamics, a child going through something hard — and you're trying to hold it together for everyone while quietly falling apart yourself.

Maybe you're not in crisis at all. You're a thoughtful parent who wants to do this well, who knows that how you show up in these years matters, and who wants to be more intentional about it before the window closes.

Parenting surfaces everything. Your attachment history, your unresolved pain, your relationship with control, your capacity to tolerate discomfort without passing it on. The work of becoming a better parent almost always turns out to be the work of becoming a more whole person.

Parenting therapy with me isn't about techniques. It's about understanding what's actually happening when parenting gets hard and why.

I lead with ACT because the gap between the parent you want to be and the parent you are in your most reactive moments is almost always a values gap. Not because you don't have good values, but because under stress your nervous system takes over and your values go offline. ACT helps you stay connected to what actually matters to you as a parent even when things are hard, even when you're depleted, even when your kid is pushing every button you have.

IFS brings the deeper work. Every parent has parts that get activated by their children. The part that can't tolerate being defied. The part that feels responsible for managing everyone's emotions. The part that shuts down when things get too loud or too chaotic. These parts usually have their roots in your own childhood, in what you learned about safety, about authority, about what happened when you expressed big feelings. When we understand those parts, you stop reacting from them automatically and start responding from a more grounded place.

Attachment theory is central here because secure attachment in your children starts with understanding your own. How you were parented shaped your attachment style, and your attachment style shapes how you parent. That's not a life sentence. Attachment patterns can shift and when they do, the change moves in both directions. Toward your children and back toward yourself.

My approach is honest, warm, and practical. We look at what's actually happening in your family, understand it at its roots, and build something more intentional from there.

The research on this is clear, the single biggest factor in a child's emotional development is the emotional health of their parents. Not perfection. Not having all the answers. Just a parent who is willing to do their own work.

When parents do this work something shifts in the whole family system. The reactive moments become less frequent and less intense. The repair after conflict becomes faster and more genuine. Kids feel the difference even when they can't articulate it. And you feel the difference too — less guilt, more presence, a relationship with your children that feels like something you actually built rather than something that happened to you.

Parenting is one of the most humbling things I work with, because the stakes feel so high and the margin for error feels so small. But the parents who show up to do this work aren't the ones failing their kids. They're the ones taking it seriously enough to look honestly at themselves. That takes real courage. Meaningful change starts from within and ripples out into how we live, connect, and make decisions.

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