Couples therapy with me is collaborative, creative, and genuinely curious about what is actually happening between you.

We start by slowing down enough to actually look at the dynamic. Most couples come in focused on the content of their conflicts, what was said, who did what, who was wrong. The content matters but it's rarely where the real work is. Underneath most relationship conflict is something more fundamental. Two people with different nervous systems, different histories, different attachment patterns, trying to get their needs met in a shared space without a shared language for how to do that. We find that language together.

I bring a somatic awareness to couples work that I find essential. A lot of what happens between partners happens in the body before it happens in words. The way someone's tone of voice lands. The physical experience of feeling unheard or dismissed or flooded. Learning to recognize those somatic signals and work with them rather than be controlled by them is some of the most immediate and practical work we do.

We also get curious about the parts each of you brings into the room. The part that attacks when it feels abandoned. The part that shuts down when things get intense. The part that has been here before and is braced for the same ending. These parts aren't the enemy. They're trying to protect something real. When they feel understood the dynamic between you starts to shift.

Mindfulness runs through the work too. Learning to be present with discomfort in the relationship rather than reacting to it immediately is one of the most transformative things a couple can develop. The pause between stimulus and response is where everything changes.

My approach is warm, playful when the work allows it, and genuinely invested in what you're building together. I am a supervised Learning Therapist working toward my LMFT, which means I bring fresh eyes, genuine enthusiasm, and the full support of clinical supervision to every session. It also means my rate is significantly more accessible than a fully licensed therapist. Good therapy doesn't have to be expensive to be real.

Relationship patterns that go unaddressed don't stay contained. They shape the quality of connection in your life, the emotional environment your children grow up in, and the story you tell yourself about what love is supposed to feel like.

When this work gets done something real changes. The script gets rewritten. The arguments that used to derail start to resolve. The distance closes. You stop performing the relationship and start actually living it together. The person you chose starts to feel like someone you can actually reach. And who can actually reach you.

I came to couples work through theater and I find the parallels endlessly useful. Every relationship is a co-creation. Two people improvising a shared story, making it up as they go, sometimes brilliantly and sometimes getting in each other's way. The work isn't to follow a better script. It's to get curious about the one you've been running and decide together what you actually want to create. Together we'll set goals, then set sails and explore.

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